Couples counseling is an opportunity for you and your partner to reduce relationship distress and restore connection. It is a chance to break out of old patterns while improving communication. My counseling is short-term and results-oriented and I take an active role during sessions to facilitate change.
When working with couples I have found that the three most important factors leading to success are:
Both partners feeling that the other genuinely cares.
A high level of trust and confidence in the counselor.
A shared belief in the principles of the counseling method
I will invite you and your partner or spouse to collaborate in creating the goals and to contribute feedback along the way. My primary approach and the one that I have found to be most effective in counseling couples is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Emotionally Focused Therapy
EFT is a short-term, empirically validated approach to helping distressed couples. It is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement. Specifically, research has shown that clients report that five things happened in therapy that made things better for them:
- One partner expressing underlying feelings and the other changing their perception of that partner after hearing this.
- Learning to understand underlying emotions. Learning to productively express emotional needs.
- Taking responsibility for emotional needs.
- Receiving validation for one’s needs.
EFT is designed to be completed in 8-16 sessions and there are no homework assignments. The expectation is for change to occur during therapy sessions.